"Thanks for all the love and kindness that you showed to me.
It felt very easy to open up and to talk to you.
I never felt that you were ever judging me or never listening
It was really helpful having your strength and guidance to pick myself back up again" - Some lovely feedback!
I currently have daytime face to face appointments available. If you're thinking about therapy, I will always offer you a chat by phone or zoom before you decide to commit
I am a Relate trained and qualified counsellor with a Masters degree in relationship therapy and a professional certificate in psychosexual therapy. Whether you feel that you have gradually been growing apart, or something has happened that has disturbed the core of your relationship you don’t have to face these issues alone.
Equally if you are one of the many people that experiences sexual issues either within your relationship or as an individual, I can help and assist.
Being both a sex and couple therapist I also have experience where there are layers of issues within a relationship which include a lack of sexual intimacy. Often there is a disparity for each member of the couple around which of these issues is seen as the priority, but in fact they are inextricably linked.
I have a breadth of experience in numerous relationship issues, these include
Affairs and betrayals
Lack of intimacy and sex
Loss of desire
Sexual issues and problems around performance anxiety or pain
Moving towards separation
Parenting and/or blended family issues
Starting or maintaining a relationship
An important part of my work is that I tailor the therapy to you, and your needs. Sometimes counselling isn’t necessarily about reaching a conclusion or resolution, often it can also be the start of a longer process.
It is most important to recognise is that the moment you've got in contact you have started the process, and this is the first step in beginning to move forward.
You can come as an individual to talk through any relationship and/or sexual issues that are troubling you.
What to expect in the first session
Making the decision to start counselling often takes courage and can be daunting. I'm very aware of this, and will work hard to make the space feel secure for the you. My priority in the first session is to hear your story and find out what is most important for you.
When there are two of you, I would need to hear what is important to both of you. I also want you to get an idea of the process you have begun and how it will unfold. It's important that you move towards understanding that the counselling session is a space and time where you can (both) be heard.