Building
Better
Relationships
Counselling, relationship counselling and sex therapy online and face to face in Warlingham
07951 921 344
I support adult couples and individuals. Lots of the people I see have busy lives. They are smart and capable. They can usually figure things out themselves, but feel stuck about how to improve their relationships. Clients who have the greatest success in working with me have these things in common: 1. Courage to believe things can be better. 2. Readiness to embrace change. 3. Willingness to take responsibility, and to learn new ways of being in relationship; either with themselves or with their partner
I tell you a bit more about me in this page
I am a Relate trained and qualified counsellor with a Masters degree in relationship therapy and a professional certificate in psychosexual therapy. Whether you feel that you have gradually been growing apart, or something has happened that has disturbed the core of your relationship you don’t have to face these issues alone.
Equally if you are one of the many people that experiences sexual issues either within your relationship or as an individual, I can help and assist.
Being both a sex and couple therapist I also have experience where there are layers of issues within a relationship which include a lack of sexual intimacy. Often there is a disparity for each member of the couple around which of these issues is seen as the priority, but in fact they are inextricably linked.
I have a breadth of experience in numerous relationship issues, these include
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Growing apart
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Affairs and betrayals
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Communication difficulties
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Lack of intimacy and sex
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Loss of desire
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Sexual issues and problems around performance anxiety or pain
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Continuous arguments
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Moving towards separation
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Parenting and/or blended family issues
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Starting or maintaining a relationship
An important part of my work is that I tailor the therapy to you, and your needs. Sometimes counselling isn’t necessarily about reaching a conclusion or resolution, often it can also be the start of a longer process.
It is most important to recognise is that the moment you've got in contact you have started the process, and this is the first step in beginning to move forward.
You can come as an individual to talk through any relationship and/or sexual issues that are troubling you.
What to expect in the first session
Making the decision to start counselling often takes courage and can be daunting. I'm very aware of this, and will work hard to make the space feel secure for the you. My priority in the first session is to hear your story and find out what is most important for you.
When there are two of you, I would need to hear what is important to both of you. I also want you to get an idea of the process you have begun and how it will unfold. It's important that you move towards understanding that the counselling session is a space and time where you can (both) be heard.