Building
Better
Relationships
Counselling, relationship counselling and sex therapy
online and face to face in Warlingham 

You can find out more about my background and experience on my about me page 

 

I am a Relate trained and qualified counsellor with a Masters degree in relationship therapy and a professional certificate in psychosexual therapy. Whether you feel you have gradually grown apart, or something has happened that has seriously affected your relationship, you don't have to face these difficulties alone.

 

I also work with individuals and couples experiencing sexual difficulties, whether these are part of a wider relationship problem or something you are struggling with individually.

 

As both a relationship and sex therapist, I often see how difficulties within a relationship and a lack of sexual intimacy can be closely connected. Sometimes one partner feels that the lack of sex is the main problem, while the other feels there are difficulties in the relationship that need addressing first. Both are important and often need to be considered together.

 

I work with couples and individuals experiencing a range of relationship issues, these include

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• Growing apart

• Affairs and betrayals

• Communication difficulties

• Lack of intimacy and sex

• Loss of desire

• Sexual issues and problems around performance anxiety or pain

• Continuous arguments

• Moving towards separation

• Parenting and/or blended family issues

• Starting or maintaining a relationship

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An important part of my work is that I tailor the therapy to you, and your needs. Sometimes counselling isn’t necessarily about reaching a conclusion or resolution, often it can also be the start of a longer process.

 

It is most important to recognise is that the moment you've got in contact you have started the process, and this is the first step in beginning to move forward.

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You can come as an individual to talk through any relationship and/or sexual issues that are troubling you.

 

What to expect in the first session

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Making the decision to start counselling often takes courage and can be daunting. I'm very aware of this, and will work hard to make the space feel secure for the you. My priority in the first session is to hear your story and find out what is most important for you.

 

When there are two of you, I would need to hear what is important to both of you. I also want you to get an idea of the process you have begun and how it will unfold. It's important that you move towards understanding that the counselling session is a space and time where you can (both) be heard.

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